Okay so on to part 2 of the wedding day…. the ceremony!
First off, some of you may be wondering why I didn’t end up doing the ceremony outside underneath their beautiful awning. And honestly, I’m pretty shocked I didn’t. After all, the beautiful scenery is what initially drew me to the venue in the first place.
However, 10 days before the big day, Mauricio my dad and I all went up to the venue to do a final walk through. After standing “underneath” the awning for like 30 seconds, I was sweating. My makeup was melting off and I felt disgusting…. in jean shorts.
Now you may be thinking ‘Abby, it’s the end of July in Texas…. wasn’t the heat kind of a given?’ Well the short answer is “duh, of course I did.” BUT the venue has these nice umbrella things over the guest seating so the guests would all be shaded the entire time.
The only variable we were working with was how hot the bridal party would be. Unfortunately for myself and the bridesmaids, the way the sun was positioned in relation to our position up front, we would all be directly facing the sun…. so much that I wasn’t having a hard time opening my eyes fully.
All in all, although I did see some brides decided to go ahead and do it outside around that same month, I just couldn’t risk looking like a wet poodle in all of the photos after the ceremony.
Also keep in mind that the venue closed at midnight and we paid for 4 hours of band time, so we had to push the ceremony to start a little earlier than usual (5:30) so the sun was still in full effect. lol.
Anyways, I ended up making the last minute decision to flip the ceremony inside and just deal with the fact that the caterers would quickly have to flip the room. Post on how to minimize the stress of this to come in the future – my brother and I both did this at our weddings and as long as you have drinks and appetizers its seriously not a big deal.
So literally like a week and a half before the wedding, I completely flipped the script and made the call to switch the ceremony to indoors. Thankfully our florist– The Stalk Market — was amazing and made the mantel exactly how I asked. It may not have been the outdoor ceremony I originally dreamed of, but it was still really beautiful. Plus, I’m sure our guests were very thankful. lol.
As you can see, the wedding colors we decided on were Navy Blue and Blush Pink. The boys all wore matching suits, while I decided to let the girls all pick their own dresses.
My only stipulation was that they be long (I was told this would help with the major height differences in the group) and I gave them a color swatch to base it off of. Obviously getting all 10 dresses to match the color swatch exactly would be next to impossible, so I was totally okay with the idea of it being kind of an ombre effect.
However, even with all the girls living in different states (and countries for that matter) all of the dresses ended up flowing together perfectly.
I’m so happy with the way it turned out and even happier that I didn’t have to deal with the drama of forcing them all into the same gown. lol.
For the ceremony music we hired the same string quartet that my brother and his wife used for their wedding 3 years prior. They are really easy to work with and I would definitely recommend them if you’re looking for a live music option during your walk down the aisle.
Songs we had them play:
Groom Entrance: Mauricio picked this one and he can’t remember… lol
Bridal Party Entrance: A Thousand Years by Christina Perri
Bridal Entrance: Canon in D (I originally wanted to walk down to a thousand years but ultimately decided to stick with a classic and just have the bridesmaids walk down to the other one)
Recessional (song after you kiss): Pompeii by Basille
For the ceremony, Mauricio and I had mis-matched number of bridesmaids to groomsmen (he had 12, I had 10) so we had to get a bit creative with the aisle rundown. Rather than having two of the groomsmen walk with 1 bridesmaid, we had his little walk down his grandma and one of his groomsmen walk down my mom.
One tip I have for future brides is not to get hung up on these little details. We spent WAY too much time trying to workout the lineup of our bridal party so that we weren’t hurting anyones feelings or making anyone uncomfortable. Trust me, no one even notices or cares, so just safe yourself the energy and do whatever you want to do and be done with it.
Also, I had both a Matron on Honor and a Maid of Honor and that worked out PERFECTLY. Honestly, I think it makes it so much easier on them when theres such a large bridal party to coordinate. Vanessa and Amanda got to split up the costs and the tasks and I think it was just the perfect amount of responsibilities for each of them to take on without feeling too incredibly over-whelmed. Because lets face it, being the maid of honor can be very stressful.
Another thing Mauricio and I decided to do was to write our own vows. As most of you know, we dated (on and off) for 11 years, so we felt like it was important for each of us to write and recite our own.
I literally wrote my vows like a year before the wedding, so I had mine fully prepared and rehearsed. Here are my vows:
My best friend, my soulmate, my lobster.
Today, I have known and loved you for
10 years, 11 months, and 7 days.
It is a love that has grown and matured
as the various seasons of our relationship have evolved.
It’s been a journey, and I am so grateful for that journey.
Because as I stand here ready to
take your hand for life,
I’m not filled with anxiousness or uncertainty
of what our future holds,
but rather an unwavering confidence
in knowing that no matter what obstacles
are put in our path,
you and I will always overcome.
So today in front of our closest friends and our families,
I bind my life to yours.
Where ever you go, I will go.
And whatever you face I will face.
I promise to make your dreams, my dreams.
To stand firm by your side
and to help you fulfill the calling
of God and of our family.
To support you,
but also to challenge you.
I vow to have the patience that love demands,
even when you manage to lose your phone,
your wallet, and your keys,
all in the same day.
To speak when words are needed,
but to be silent when they are not.
To remember that sometimes saying sorry
is more important than being right,
and with that a promise to let you
be right 49% of the time.
Most of all, I vow to fiercely love you.
And to remind you today and everyday forward,
that you are my most cherished gift,
my answered prayer,
and the absolute love of my life.
Mauricio Andre Velasco the third,
11 years ago, in your parents media room,
you were my very first kiss.
And today as I vow to be yours for life,
I promise you will be very last. “
Mauricio, however, is more of a speak from the heart kind of guy so although he did have notes written down, his were a bit less rehearsed than mine. Therefor, he doesn’t exactly remember what he said to put it in here. They were cute though!
And just like that… we were husband and wife! 🙂
Portraits up next!!