Hey guys! We are 20 weeks today! Can you believe that?! Halfway there 🙂
Mauricio and I felt the baby kick for the first time last night!!! We were laying on the couch watching the Country Music Awards when I felt a big kick inside my tummy (so weird) I quickly put Mauricio’s hand where I felt it the first time and then sure enough a few seconds later we felt another one. Mauricio’s eyes got so big and he started screaming and laughing- it was so cute.
I’m so happy he was able to be there for the first time. Lately he’s been getting off around dinner time so we’ve been able to spend our evenings together (abnormal for us) which has been really nice.
So rather than doing the questionnaire again today, I wanted to share some things I’ve learned through being pregnant. Something many people don’t know about me is that prior to actually becoming pregnant, I didn’t see myself having kids until my early 30s. Yep, thats right, I actually told Mauricio on our honeymoon that I couldn’t bear the thought of popping out babies right after getting married.
HA!!! Little did I know, I was already pregnant at the moment I was saying that. I’m sure God was looking down on me and laughing.
Anyway, now that I am indeed pregnant, I can’t imagine not being. Like its weird to think about what these past 3 months of being newly weds would have been like had we not been pregnant. On one hand, it would have been nice to be able to drink and go out and meet people. But on the other, I truly do feel like this baby has bonded us even more than we already were. Which is crazy considering we’ve known each other for over 11 years now.
That being said, now that we are at the half-way point I wanted to express some of the lessons I’ve learned thus far about pregnancy. Some are kind of snarky and some are sappy.
1. “Morning Sickness” doesn’t necessarily actually mean MORNING sickness.
For some of us, it lasts all day and never actually comes out. It just sits in the back of your throat and taunts you all day.
2. You have to put yourself and your needs first.
I’m not typically one to ask for help- if I can manage it myself I’m going to do it myself. However, during pregnancy you have to learn to ask people for help because if you don’t – you could risk hurting the baby. Normally I would refuse the offer to help me carry something if I could do it myself (the feminism in me) but now I know better. I have to suck up my pride and just ask someone to carry something for me even if they probably don’t understand why. (I wear a lot of loose dresses to work so a lot of my buyers don’t know I’m pregnant yet).
3. Being Skinny isn’t Everything
Something about growing another life and realizing that your actions have an effect on their entire life, really puts things into perspective. Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely still days where I get discouraged because nothing is fitting me like it used to, but it’s certainly not my priority anymore.
4. That being said, getting weighed is never fun . . .
Even when you’re pregnant. For those that don’t know, every time you go to the doctor the nurse weighs you and marks it down on a chart. It’s absolutely necessary to make sure everything is progressing “normally” … but that still doesn’t mean anyone enjoys someone else writing down your weight gain every week.
5. Getting winded going up a flight of stairs has become the norm
No joke, my heart races just from going up a flight of stairs. It’s sad. Now when I run I have to stop and walk regularly. Coming from someone who ran a half marathon, that’s pretty discouraging to not be able to even run a mile without stopping. Oh well. Walking is cool too, right? lol.
6. Willpower is out the window
If I want a cookie, I want a cookie. Nothing will satisfy you until you get what you’re craving. Also, sometimes the things you crave are the things that hurt you. lol. That sounds dramatic, but what I mean is that I’ve been getting terrible indigestion lately and it’s likely from all the hot sauce and salsa I’ve been eating…. but literally thats all I crave. If it’s not spicy I don’t want it.
7. Exercise doesn’t seem quite as important as it used to
I do still like to stay active because I’m told it makes the recovery process afterwords MUCH easier. However, I no longer force myself to get to the gym if I’m not feeling it that day… or that week. My workouts now revolve around if I WANT to do it that day, it’s not a matter of just forcing myself to get up in the morning and get it over with like I used to be able to.
8. Gods plan is ultimately the only one that matters
We can make as many plans and excel documents as we want to, but at the end of the day Gods plan is really the only one that matters.
9. The things that scare us the most are the things that are the most life changing
Like I said, this wasn’t a planned pregnancy. However, Mauricio and I have grown closer together through it than I could have imagined possible. Something about having a child together just really makes you appreciate each other 10x more. There’s no way for me to know if this has anything to do with the pregnancy or not, but we haven’t fought hardly at all since we got married. Typically the first year of marriage is deemed the most trying on a relationship, but for us it’s been very romantic and positive. The only thing we’ve fought about is the babys names actually. HA. We don’t even know the gender yet.
10. Some of the best decisions are the ones we didn’t actually make
Who knows what our situation would be if we waited 5 years to start trying like we intended to. For all we know, something could happen to us in that time frame where we aren’t able to bear a child. OR maybe I need this child to make me feel more at home here in Boston for the next few years? Maybe it’ll help me branch out and make new mommy friends and really start to get settled. Who knows.
For my fellow mamas or mamas-to-be out there, what are the greatest lessons you learned?