Hi friends! In honor of today marking Mauricio and my 6-Month Wedding Anniversary, I’m talking about 6 lessons I’ve learned during 6 months of Marriage! Ps- a recap of our baby shower should be up tomorrow 🙂
1.Saying the word ‘Husband’ still sounds
strange coming out of my mouth.
Calling Mauricio my Husband or hearing him call me his wife is super romantic, but also SO strange. At first it made me feel like I was throwing out the word ‘husband’ un-necessarily and now it just feels like people look at me like ‘are you even old enough for that?’
2. Communicate but Don’t Nag
Need your husband to be more romantic? Tell him. Need him to pick up after himself
better- ask him nicely. He’s not a mind-reader (and visa-versa) so nothing good
comes from bottling it up until you explode.
Nothing good comes from bottling things up, but nothing good comes from nagging either.
We all having annoying habits, thats just life. And I promise you, nothing good will come from nagging your significant other about the little things.
For example, during the first few weeks of living together, Mauricio and I would bicker about silly little things such as me not getting the mail, him not hanging up his towels and clothes, etc. Small stuff!
Luckily, it only took us a month or so to get into the groove of living together and figuring out what the other one needed in order for us to maintain a happy household. Now I make an effort to check the mailbox when I come home and he makes an effort to pick up his towels… but if one of us doesn’t do it, we don’t say anything because honestly – it’s not really a big deal. A lot of arguments seem to stem from a bunch of little things that add up to what may seems like something huge.
However, if theres something your significant other does that truly truly bothers you- say something, but say it nicely without sounding like you are be patronizing or nagging them. No one responds well to criticism, so the way you phrase it will have a big impact on how they respond.
3.Sex is a vital part of marriage
You probably didn’t expect to read that. However, Sex, whether people want to admit it or not, can have a huge impact on the way you treat each other outside the bedroom as well.
For us, I’ve found that the more regularly we have sex and the ‘hotter’ our sex life is,
the more loving our relationship is outside of the bedroom as well.
4.Your spouse must be your #1 priority
Assuming you don’t have kids yet, your spouse HAS to be your #1 priority no matter what. For example, as many of you know- Mauricio has a very time-consuming job which typically requires him to be at the office until 9 or 10 pm, and lately its been more like 12 or 1am.
What this means for us is that whenever he has any free time, that free time is dedicated to spending time with me. No phones, no distractions, just him and I.
5.Stop money issues before they start
Oh finances, the number one argument of marriage. This one can be un-avoidable at times, but there are definitely ways of making them much less frequent and much less painful.
As many of you know, Mauricio and I found out we were pregnant just 2 weeks after returning from our Honeymoon. We had just moved cross-country and were living in an un-furnished apartment thousands of miles away from our families. So when the stick said “YES”, the first thing that popped into Mauricio’s head was “how are we going to afford a baby on top of me going to business school?”
Being the finance guy that he is, he immediately drafted a very elaborate spreadsheet of our yearly incomes along with the expenses we would be incurring with the baby while he is in Business School.
As you can probably guess, I followed his spreadsheet for like a hot second and haven’t looked at it since. Instead, the agreement we came up with is that I kept my own separate bank account (in addition to our joint checking) which is strictly for me to use for my blog and/or any other “un-necessary” purchases I want to make. So any money I make from my blog goes into that account and any money I spend to keep my blog running comes out of that account.
This way there are no arguments over “well why did you spend $400 at Nordstrom this month?” The money that goes in and out of there is considered my “play” money and there are no questions asked.
6. Saying Sorry is More Important than Being Right
This was actually one of my vows.
For some reason, saying “I’m Sorry” is one of the hardest things for (most) of us to do, I think it has something to do with the assumption that you are admitting you were wrong? I’m not sure, I just know that mustering up the courage to say those 2 words after fighting with our signifiant other takes far longer than it really should.
Luckily, Mauricio and I really haven’t had many big fights since getting married. In fact, I can only think of one that actually stood out. Without going into detail, I will say that it lead Mauricio to get out of my car and walk the rest of the way home.
Previously, this would have been something we let cause a fight for days. However, after about an hour of each of us taking some time to cool off, I went and sat on his lap and mustered up those 2 words “ I’m sorry “ and low and behold, he said it back!
All it takes is one person making that first step, no matter how “right” you feel like you were in the initial argument.
Ps- Incase you missed it, here is the link to our wedding video!
What is the #1 lesson you learned during your first 6months/year of marriage? Tell me down below <3