Real Talk: Holiday Stress

 

 

Hi friends-

Happy December 1st! I can’t believe how quickly November has come and gone! It’s my favorite time of the year… CHRISTMAS!!! Anyone who knows me knows I LOVE CHRISTMAS. The music, the lights, the parties, I love it all.

However, the Holiday Season can also bring feelings of stress and anxiety. Stress over buying the right gift, having the perfect outfit for your husbands company Christmas party, stress over all of the tempting desserts at every turn, or my personal favorite (sarcasm)- travel anxiety. 

Despite being the most wonderful time of the year, the season of giving can sometimes get weighed down for people who deal with stress and anxiety in social situations or in times where they feel like there is just too much to do and not enough time to do it. Anxiety is something I personally dealt with heavily in College so I wanted to share some of the tips that helped me, in hopes that you’ll find one of them helps you too <3

 

Find the root of the cause. Before you can learn to manage the stress, you have to identify what’s causing it. I used to have TERRIBLE travel anxiety. I still do get a little anxious the night before traveling, but it’s nothing like it used to be. I believe mine stemmed from the need for control. I had my daily routine that I did every morning (I’m a bit OCD) and it really threw off my whole day when I didn’t do it. Over the past year or so I’ve really learned to be a bit more relaxed and more go-with-the-flow than I used to be. Of course I’ll never be one of those people that can simply say ‘sure I’ll fly to fiji tomorrow!’ but I’m certainly a lot better than I used to be. The main turn for me has been recognizing what the root cause of the anxiety was- the need for control– praying about it, and letting it go (as best as I can). After all, once this baby boy comes, I will have NO CONTROL. LOL. Kidding… kind of.

Do Less, Enjoy More. Here’s a more common one- too many things to do, people to see, and parties to attend all within a short span of time. This is another thing I struggled with, trying to please everyone meanwhile wearing myself out and causing myself more stress than it was worth. So if you’re anything like me and you need the time to recuperate alone after a long night of socializing- don’t be afraid to say no to extra activities that follow.

 

Make a List. I have a TERRIBLE memory. This is something I know about myself (it’s even worse with pregnancy) so I know that if I want to remember it- I must write it down. Rather than frantically throwing things in a suitcase the morning of traveling, I start drafting a list of outfits in my journal so that I can clear that worry from my mind.
Another tip for all my fashionistas out there- try on your outfits exactly as you would want to wear them before packing. This way you know exactly what pieces go with what, so when it’s time for the event you know exactly what you’re wearing. Doing this also prevents your from over-packing a ton of stuff you’re not actually going to wear.

 

Be Present. Studies have shown that the constant buzzing and pop-up alerts from our phones keep us in a perpetual fight-or-flight mode due to bursts of adrenaline. Not only does this take our attention away from those that we are actually meant to be spending time with, but it also contributes to rising stress levels, especially in women. So leave your cell phone in your purse or pocket and really enjoy the time spent with loved ones. You can check Instagram when you get home (this is saying a lot coming from a blogger!)

 

Keep a Journal. This may sound similar to tip #3- make a list, but what I mean by this one is that if you are someone who struggles with any form of anxiety, keep a journal and write down how you’re feeling when you feel an anxiety attack coming on. This may seem silly at first, but something about seeing the words written down on paper really helps you to see how silly the reason for your anxiety truly is and can help you move on from it.

 

What causes you stress? Anyone else find themselves getting more anxious around the Holiday Season? Let us know your tricks to overcoming them down below 🙂

 

xoxo,

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Comments

  1. Yasssss! We do lists like crazy at this time of year (more than my usual crazy lists!) but you know what, they keep me SANE and organized!!! Also, we learned early in our marriage the importance of saying “no” otherwise you are pulled 50 different ways and there are only 24 hours in a day! <3

  2. Another gift idea for your Mama….a journal. I’ve never considered keeping a journal before, but now that I think about it, my mother and my grandmother both kept diaries…I bet this is how they managed their stress. Especially my maternal grandmother…your great grandmother…9 children and a husband who passed when she was pregnant with #9…and it was during the depression era. Phew! How did she manage?!

    Good job with your blog honey. So proud of you!!

    • aw so sweet mama- thank you 🙂 I am surprised you don’t keep a journal! Especially after hearing that Grandma kept one so diligently! We’ll have to find you one so you can write down all the silly things your wonderful kids do <3 ha!

  3. As crazy as it sounds I have started organizing our holiday events as much as possible to keep everything as calm as possible. If not it becomes completely crazy around my house. We don’t even do that much.

  4. Love this! Very good tips. I have struggled in years past, getting caught up in the rush of everything. I’ve vowed to just take it one day at a time. Do what I can for that day, and enjoy the present.

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