Creative Ways to Ask Your Bridesmaids



So you said “yes!”  to the man of your dreams, but now it’s time to decide what girls you will ask to stand by your side on the big day. This part can be a little stressful, but also a lot of fun! Mauricio and I both went away to College, so for us we had to narrow down which friends from high school and which friends from college to ask to be in our wedding party.

Well, if I’m being 100% honest, I think if it was up to Mauricio he would have a line of 20 guys up there with him. lol. Luckily for our wedding guests, I cut it off at 10. {you’re welcome}

I guess you could say I’m a bit more selective of who I let get really close to me (I’d say this is common as girls get older) so for me I was able to decide without a doubt on my 10 girls within a few days.

Next step, what to get them?! This was the harder part. I started ordering so many little gifts on Etsy and then once my mom and I were putting everything together my moms starts laughing as says
“oh Abby, you did it again”
What is she talking about? Well…. it’s quite an “Abby move” when choosing things within a theme to go a little over-board with that theme. Basically, I ordered a ton of crap that said “Will you be my bridemaid?” “Help me tie the knot” etc… hahaha. Typical.


Needless to say, we narrowed it down to one item that said a cheesy line like so and saved the rest for little knick knack gifts along the way.

I ended up going with these little pink jewelry boxes that I got their Monogramed Initials put on the top and the “Will you be my Bridesmaid?” question on the inside along with a pair of Kate Spade Earrings in the color scheme of the wedding.

We wrapped them in little gold polka dot bags with pink tissue paper and they were oh so cute 🙂 Unfortunately for some of the girls I had to ship their gifts so theirs were in gold envelopes instead lol.

Thankfully, they all said yes! 🙂 I’m so excited to be able to share our big day with all of our closest friends from both highschool and college <3

Okay so now comes that question,
“How should YOU ask YOUR Bridesmaids?”

Here are a few things to keep in mind when deciding:

  1. Decide how much money you want to spend in total. Divide amongst # of bridesmaids
  2. Do you have to ship them? If so, keep in mind how much it will weigh!
  3. Think about whether or not your bridesmaids will use the gift you are giving them. If you’re spending upwards of $40 per girl, you’ll want to find something they can use outside of the wedding. If you’re going a more simple route and spending under $15 per girl than theres no shame in getting them something that will just be used for pictures, getting ready in the bridal suite, etc.
  4. Browse Etsy and Pinterest for ideas. There are so many DIY’s but honestly I think your best bet is going with the people that specialize in it. You can find plenty of Etsy shops selling bridesmaids gifts for a very reasonable price. These Monogramed Jewelry boxes were $15 a piece, which is probably less than it would have cost me to do it myself. Plus it saved my sanity.



5. Keep it practical! If you buy them something that says “bridesmaid” across it, are they really going to use it again? Probably not. This is fine if you are okay with it being a one-day gift, but if you’d rather your girls be able to get more uses out of your gift, I advise getting their names or initials on things rather than “Bridesmaid” “MOH” etc.

6. Do you get everyone the same gift? For these, I did. The earrings I assumed everyone will wear for the actual wedding day, so I went ahead and got my bridesmaids, maid, and matron of honor, all the same. However, for the actual wedding gift I advise getting your Maid/Matron of honor something special (apart from the other bridesmaid gifts) largely due to the fact that they will have likely spent ample time and money organizing your various showers and bachelorette party.

7. Keep in mind sale opportunities! I know that seems like a no-brainer. But honestly, when we first got engaged I was so excited that I didn’t want to wait a few months to ask my girls. Had I purchased these Kate Spade earrings at full-price I would be out an additional $300! Thankfully I chose to be patient and wait for the annual Kate-Spade sale (usually late July/early August) to purchase all the earrings and it saved me quite a large chunk of change.

8. HAVE FUN WITH IT! Remember that this is a fun time and once it’s over you never get to be the bride again, so relish in it! 😉


Here are a few other gift ideas I really like:

Cute ways to pop the question to your bridesmaids and bridal party

                              Champagne and a flute glass in a cute heart shaped box

I just love this note^ So funny!

So cute!!!!!

I would probably wait to give them the champagne glasses until wedding day

Necklaces are always a crowd pleaser


Any other brides out there working on their gifts?




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